Mind Your Body TV Episode 49 with Tina Tessina, Ph.D.
When Tina Tessina, Ph.D. shows up on the Mind Your Body TV set, you know you’re in for straight talk, just like she gave us in our previous online dating segment. In our second video outing here, she doesn’t mince words about how we boomer gals can be sure better communication improves sex. “Dr. Romance” has counseled thousands of people about relationships, so I had questions at the ready—and she didn’t dodge ‘em.
How communication improves your sex
A lot’s been written in the past few years about sex after 50, and rather than repeat what Dr. Tessina tells us in the video, I hunted down a few choice comments on the subject:
- From Patty Brisben, founder, Pure Romance, on HuffPost: Just remember: Sexiness is timeless. Make a decision each day to get in touch with your sensual side and bring that excitement to your relationship in order to achieve a more fulfilling sexual life and relationship at every age.
- From Bill Kelley, comedy writer, on HuffPost: “It’s okay if you call out the wrong name. In fact, it’s no big deal at all. You’ve been mixing up your kids and dogs’ names for years so it’s certainly not a problem to do it with the person lying next to you.” (Ok: That’s funny, isn’t it?)
- John Stark on Next Avenue: “Now I know why my fifty-something friends are so eager to tell me about their newfound sex lives. In fact I pity anyone under 50 who’s having sex. They’ll have to wait to find out what they’re missing.”
- Irwin Goldstein, M.D., the director of San Diego Sexual Medicine at Alvarado Hospital tells Health.com: “You can have sex in any room in the house. You can have the greatest sex life on earth.”
- Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., tells AARP.org: “Don’t just do your thing—do your partner’s thing. How do you know what your partner likes? You ask and you listen. You listen to their noises, their words, and you observe what increases their breath, pulse rate and body tension. You become a master observer of your beloved.”
If you and your lover, partner, spouse (hopefully the same person!)—or maybe just you—have resolved to have better sex in 2013, you have lots of help. First stop: Enjoy Dr. Romance’s tips here. Maybe you’ll invest in a bell to ring in more than the New Year!