Mind Your Body TV Episode 9 with Jada Michaels.
You’d love for him to know how to buy your perfect lingerie. Pajamas with feet in them send a message to your spouse or partner, but so do baggy flannels or an old T-shirt—no matter how comfy. I’ll ‘fess up here: Two decades ago I bought a Mickey Mouse T-shirt at Disney World, the de rigueur souvenir, you know? It was pink and it was huge. I wore that relic for another decade, even outside in below-freezing weather when I was caught in a nighttime hotel fire in Canada. Finally, the shirt became a dust rag.
As a 50+ woman, do you think it’s important to look great for bed, in bed? True, we can’t all be long-haired, thin, yet voluptuous lingerie models, but we can be proud of our own body image. Shout it out: “We are sexy!” I contacted lingerie guru Jada Michaels, whose line of lingerie—we are NOT calling this underwear—runs the gamut to fit any female size and shape, and she agreed to coach us gal boomers on the nuances. I’m ready to step it up and hope you are, too!
He can buy perfect lingerie
“I am a woman and I understand that we all have ‘body parts’ that we tend to be less than excited about,” says Michaels. “We have our days when we want a little more cleavage, our tummies hidden, booties camouflaged, and just wish our hips looked a little slimmer. I have researched every style of lingerie. I have prodded and probed the stretchy support of fabrics, learned tricks and design secrets and styled my girlfriends of all shapes and sizes.” Hence, behold her cleavage makers, tummy tuckers, booty shapers and hip slimmers online.
If you or your man feel lost or out of place in the lingerie store, the effervescent and accessible Michaels will instill the confidence you need.
Bringing sexy back
Michaels has helped hundreds of men in their quest to buy the perfect lingerie present, and in the process, has uncovered a few common traits. Here’s her advice on how he can buy YOUR perfect lingerie:
- Don’t go too sexy, too fast: “Men, remember you’re buying lingerie for someone special and starting out too sexy may send the wrong message or make her feel insecure. Don’t go for the super sexy bustier with garters and thigh-highs, but do choose something sexy but feminine. As you remember, the goal is to make her feel beautiful. You won’t go wrong starting with a flawless satin chemise with matching robe or a sexy babydoll.”
- When it’s “ok” to buy lingerie for her: “I have a simple rule for this. You should have spent seven quality dates with her, been intimate or are monogamous. It shows that you respect her, the foundation of a strong relationship. Lingerie should set the tone for romance. How intimate it becomes from there is up to her.”
- Presentation sensation: “Delivery matters: Place your gift in a box with a big bow. This sets the tone that it is special, classy and respectful. Secondly, when you give it to her, tell her that you think she is beautiful and incredibly sexy and you that bought her something special. Lastly, when she puts it on you tell her how beautiful she looks.”
In this episode, Michaels explains classic types of lingerie, including what pieces look best on what bodies—and no, you won’t see a baggy T-shirt in the bunch. In subsequent episodes we’ll delve more into this fascinating subject. I guarantee that you’ll be captivated by Michaels and her “wunderwear,” as she shows him how to buy your perfect lingerie.